I was sitting in my truck when I got the second worse call a father never wants to get. The stern yet pleasant woman’s voice said, “You are receiving a call from an inmate at the San Diego County Detention Center…” I knew who was calling me and I followed the woman’s instructions on how to pay for the privilege to talk to my son.
“Dad, it’s me.” He went on to tell me how it was so unfair and how the police called their K-9 dog on him. With a 50,000 dollar bail, he won’t be going anywhere soon. He asked if I could find him a good lawyer and I told him, “You need to use the public defenders office. You’re probably better off where you are than out on the streets.” He started to tell me, it was my lack of caring that landed him there. That’s when I shut him down, “Take accountability for your actions.”
If he’s lucky they’ll see he needs psychiatric help and meds, at least he won’t be able to walk away from the facility like he did so many times before. Let me tell you this, never once did I tell him to use drugs. Never did I tell him to drink and hang out with unsavory people. I really don’t know how many times I brought up the principle of cause and effect to him. Here’s the effect of resisting arrest, assault with a deadly weapon, causing bodily injury, theft. Oh did I mention, assaulting a peace officer? It’s all bad…
I called his mom to tell her of the news. I could hear her voice break when she said, “He’ll be hurt in there.” I lied and said, “The worse he’ll get is a year in county jail not prison.” His future just got significantly gloomier and getting a job, no one will hire a felon… I’m preparing myself for the next call no father wants to get. I knew this was going to happen. This too will pass